Why domestic violence victims don't leave | Leslie Morgan Steiner
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Leslie Morgan Steiner was in "crazy love" -- that is, madly in love with a man who routinely abused her and threatened her life. Steiner tells the dark story of her relationship, correcting misconceptions many people hold about victims of domestic violence, and explaining how we can all help break the silence. (Filmed at TEDxRainier.) TEDTalks is a daily video podcast of the best talks and performances from the TED Conference, where the world's leading thinkers and doers give the talk of their lives in 18 minutes (or less). Look for talks on Technology, Entertainment and Design -- plus science, business, global issues, the arts and much more. Find closed captions and translated subtitles in many languages at http://www.ted.com/translate Follow TED news on Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/tednews Like TED on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TED Subscribe to our channel: http://www.youtube.com/user/TEDtalksDirector
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Sounds about right
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1/3 American women are abused a point in her life. Then what percentage of American MEN abuse their partner, children? I really want yo know
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What do men do when THEY are the victims of abuse. It happens at times and there's no place to go. No one believes them.
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Sorry to say, I understand what she is taking about. I was young and I loved him, crazy love. Thank God I finally left with my two kids and never looked back. Now I am fifty happily married again to a wonderful man. My kids grown and happy.
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Ummm. I hate that people ask "Why does she stay?".. The much better question is "Why does he hit her?"
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no shefucked up... shes a feminist,,, at the very begining she stated that she was against violence,,, then she went straifght into why does she stay.... doesnt she mean why does he stay? stoopid feminist...get off the stage....that was easy..... violence is against everybody.... violence is a natural thing,,, what we want to discuss is the reasons for it..... BAM!
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upset instead historian provided apart would compose
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If you catch it early then it won't hopefully escalate. As people realise they have power over you (which they take from us or we give it to them by not doing anything or retaliating) they do worse and worse things. Consequences for actions. Otherwise the unacceptable becomes acceptable/normal. No one is worth being with if they're hurting you and are not improving as a human being all the time.. You have to empower yourself education wise, career wise, physically (strength wise), in your connections/relationships, emotionally and so on. As John Demartini says "any area you don't empower yourself someone else will overpower you" and that seems like the case here? She left her job, family/friends and so on all too easily or at least it seemed that way from the talk. Then still marries the guy even though she was attacked before her marriage. Don't people know that things get WORSE after marriage since people fall back into their routines/habits/default behaviours or get lazy and stop working hard to maintain appearances or be nice, be kind, be patient and so on (which people were when wooing the other person)?
Once the bird is in the hand the hunter relaxes (this is both about men and women!) and your true side comes out.. The more stressed you are the more your true side really shows under pressure? Whether you hold true to your values and so on? Marriage and our personal lives take WORK! It's called personal development.. You have to strive to improve each day as a human being otherwise you stagnate or get worse over time! Just like our body requires exercise.. -
Great talk. Thanks for sharing! Mind boggling though that someone who goes to Harvard ended up in such a situation and couldn't tell signs of abuse or stop it early. Wtf?! Love truly is a powerful force that blinds us early on to the faults of other people and turns our brains off or something.
I guess our education/intelligence can be easily shortcircuited by love, emotions, attachment, fear, dreams and violence and so on? In trying to give our all to others we sometimes forget when we're being taken advantage of! Think about the other person, think about yourself.. Are either of you getting a raw deal? If so then do something about it! Connect with others, talk to people, build you connections, knowledge, skills, independence and so on! -
She should perhaps have elaborated after she said that the first stage is to seduce and charm the woman; that may well make some young women weary of a man who seeks to seduce and charm her! Which is just the natural thing to do, and doesn't necessarily mean abuse and isolation comes next.
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One time my wife took too long to get me a beer. I wanted it BEFORE the game started but she brought it 3 minutes AFTER the game started. I was so so very angry with her for taking so long but I forgave her and didn't hit her, Not even once. I guess she's lucky to have a patient husband like me.
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Do I have to watch this.....
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Domestic violence will never end until we admit the elephant in the room - that many women seem drawn to abusive types.
This woman is a perfect example of this. Listen to her words and see all the flaws and holes in her logic and her story. -
🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️🌺
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More feminist propaganda.
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It's too bad she never helped Conner work through his issues. I'll bet she feels guilty about that sometimes. She was probably right that she was the only one who could help him. I kind of stopped listening once I found out she remarried a gentle-man she could control. She carries the gun now. She stopped believing in real love. That part shone through for me. This is not up to the usual TED talk standards. This is just a damaged person ranting on stage and promoting her book.
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People, this video clearly states that it's about women's abuse. Everyone knows men get abused too. Stop comparing who has it worse. It's not a competition for pity. Watch the video and then look for another video to appease your wishes for an address to men's abuse and I am not saying this with a condescending tone, I'm just stating facts. One video of 16 minutes is not enough to appease every single person's opinion. Calm down and browse your YouTube. Of course it's your opinion, I'm not the one to complain. Thank you.