Going Mental: How Do You Know When a Sociopath, Narcissist or Borderline Is Lying?
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Say goodbye to that crazy woman. Buy Say Goodbye to Crazy here: http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B014W0587S?*Version*=1&*entries*=0 How Do You Know When a Sociopath, Narcissist or Borderline Is Lying? Their lips are moving. The End. That’s a facile and clichéd answer, but, more often than not, an accurate one. Sociopaths, psychopaths, narcissists, borderlines and histrionics lie for many reasons. Self-preservation (e.g., to avoid jail or other unwanted natural consequences for their bad behavior), to manipulate or exploit others to get money, sympathy, power, attention, security, a relationship or whatever their current currency happens to be and/or to make themselves look good or more successful than they actually are. Sometimes, these individuals lie when the truth would serve them better or they lie simply because they’re bored. They also lie because they enjoy the buzz or adrenaline rush from “getting one over on” or “outsmarting” their target. Dr Paul Ekman calls this rush duping delight. . . . duping delight, the near irresistible thrill some people feel in taking a risk and getting away with it. Sometimes it includes contempt for the target who is being so ruthlessly and successfully exploited. It is hard to contain duping delight; those who feel it want to share their accomplishments with others, seeking admiration for their exploits. . . . The presence of others witnessing the successful liar typically intensifies the delight experienced and increases the chances that some of the excitement, pleasure, and contempt will leak, thus betraying the liar.” Clients describe this phenomenon in relation to the sociopaths, psychopaths, narcissists, borderlines et al in their lives and have witnessed it firsthand in some of my past personal relationships. In previous articles, I have referred to it as the Sociopathic Smirk. The smirk that says, “I just tricked you” or “I just pushed your buttons.” These individuals derive pleasure from both. Dr Bella DePaulo’s research on lie detection finds that the closer one is to the liar, say a spouse, partner, family member or friend, the more difficult it is to spot their lies. When you’re in a relationship, you not only have the experience in knowing the other person, you have certain motivations to see your partner in a particular way, and you especially don’t want to think that they are lying to you.” If your partner is abusive and/or disordered, you have probably been gaslighted and told that every nasty or dishonest thing your partner does is your fault. “It’s your fault. Your face shouldn’t have gotten in the way of my fist.” “I wouldn’t have had to cheat if you were paying attention to me 24/7/365, even when I wasn’t paying attention to you.” Once you have been groomed to doubt your perceptions and, literally, what you are seeing with your own two eyes, it adds to the difficulty of spotting their inconsistencies, contradictions and straight up lies. It makes it even more tough if you still care about or love your abuser. You don’t want to believe what you know is true — or false. However, your emotional, psychological and perhaps physical survival depends upon learning their “tells.” Even the most practiced pathological liars have tells. Please join Paul Elam and Tara Palmatier when Going Mental returns at long last on Tuesday, February 3, 2015 at 9:30pm EST, 8:30pm CST and 6:30pm PST when we will discuss lie detection, duping delight and the psychology of lying and liars.
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Your contents are always great. Although I'm a MGTOW I respect your works as an MRA
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SCOTT BINSACK IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE OF A NARCISSISTIC SOCIOPATH PATHOLOGICAL LIAR ON FACEBOOK AND YOUTUBE.
HE ALSO STARTED A GROUP HE NAMED MARCH FOR AMERICA WHERE HE USES VOLUNTEERS WHO ENJOY HIS DRAMA.
THEY BELIEVE HIS LIES THAT ARE SO OBVIOUS IT'S SAD HIS SHEEP DON'T SEE IT.
HE HAS SEVERAL CONVICTIONS OF BANK FRAUD HE CLAIMS WAS SET UP!
THE STORIES ARE SO DELUSIONAL! YOU WOULD BE A TOTAL IDIOT TO BELIEVE.
WATCH HIS VIDEOS AND TAKE NOTES.
WATCH HOW HE STOPS HIS NEWS FEED OR BRAGGING RANTS TO START MORE FIGHTS ON PEOPLE HE BLOCKED FROM HIS LIVE SHOW TO SILENCE THEM.
HE STARTS EVERY SINGLE TIME DURING HIS 3 TO 4 HOURS OF RANTING .
SPENDING ATLEST 10 MINUTES TO OPEN UP A REASON THEY MUST DEFEND THEMSELVES.
HE WAS ABUSED AS A CHILD.
HE LIES
HE MADE EXCUSES TO AVOID FATHERHOOD.
I CAN GO ON AND ON.
THE MAN IS A LUNATIC ! -
Yep mental gymnatics is right........
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aneyone else just think the doc is hot?
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my ex and I in a long distance relationship would Skype often. she would project and say things like "my friend s said, aren't you worried he will cheat on you? and she would look to the side. also I asked her not to manipulate and she did the same look to the side with a kind of smirk. turns out she was seeing another guy all along.
after constant crocodile tears and triangulation s after being questioned over the future and needing me to be patient.......I went neutral and was still caring. she then lost control and lost interest in me............I was no longer putting in the effort apparently. I only transited from Melbourne to NYC multiple times. "I need you to be stronger for me" pfffft!
so much more to tell..........so nuts! -
Fuck you! I'm Borderline and I don't really lie, sounds like you're a Narcissist that believes they know it all because you have a degree, Fucking ugly bitch (the truth I promise)
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I WOULD SNAP THIS ASS HOLE IN HALF IF HE EVER HAD THE BALLS TO COME SEE ME. MANKING AREING "TERRORIST". YOU WORK IT OUT. WHY AIN'T HE MEETING THE PEOPLE HE IS DISSING AND HATING FACE TO FACE """I WONDER" LOL FKN PUSSY BEHIND A CAM
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Funny, I'm borderline and don't lie. In fact I've been told I'm too honest. My empathy is off the charts too. But I admit when 'in episode', ie triggered by a narcissist, I lose it on them. I find it somewhat amusing that people ignore the traits of Borderline Personality Disorder and decide to throw in dishonesty, manipulation and low empathy. They are likely speaking of the narcissistic traits of co-morbid borderlines. I know both characters all-too well, borderlines explode with conviction - not deception. It's not easy to deal with however it's not a disorder of manipulation or deceit. It's a disorder of unstable moods. The borderlines I know have unstable moods, either lovey dovey, self-involved or pissed-off, but not one of them lies or manipulates, they are all like myself, throwing up their innermost feelings all over the place. We do it because we need feedback that we never received growing up. In essence we need some re-parenting. A far cry from the insular sociopaths , psychopaths and narcissists who offer no way of reaching them. Three years into self-therapy I've gone a very long way. I can attest the psychopath and narcissists that I know have not changed in any way. They have no evolution. They can't. They are already perfect ;)
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EMPATHY FOR THEIR SELVES IN SELF PITY
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THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.
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THE LIER WILL NEED TRUE HELP BUT EVERYONE WILL IGNORE IT AS ANOTHER LIE OF MANY OF ITS LIES.
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40 min mark, Short Term Pain vs Long Term Pain and Loss...Holding THIS in my Head!!!
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No accidents...pay attention. Once I went to Sherri's with my ex to tutor him and the UNIVERSE was trying to communicate with me directly. 1. First we are waiting to be seated...the waitress mades us wait for 10 minutes. In that time a female stranger comes and starts touching my ex 'Didn't we do drugs together' etc. He allows it. She comes to me tries to touch my hair...I told her right away 'Don't touch me'. 2. One of his stalkers were there. His body language was clearly saying 'Abuse me, I'm a sucker'. I asked him not to touch me when she was looking. 3. Some random drunk person picks my ex out of all the people in the restaurant to ask him if he could assist him with his pants. My ex is about to go along until the waiter comes and asks the man to leave. During that time there was like a shadow that fell that told me to 'run'. This situation is putting me in danger. Sometimes when the circumstances are STRANGE like this...it is time to pay attention and run for your life. It is clear that he was bringing danger to himself and by PROXY me due to his lack of boundaries. Those people are bullies and are equally dangerous. Like sharks, they smell the blood of a weaker, dependent person. <-get away from these people they will get you killed. They will attracted danger and bring it RIGHT TO YOUR DOOR! He also had another stalker that we had to 'tolerate'. <-madness I threatened to call the police. This person almost got me raped because he hangs out with riff raff and future criminals and sex offenders. He/She will bring danger right to your door. Before this person got into my life, I didn't have these issues by proxy. I am a confident person that doesn't attract riff raff but people like this will help others violate your boundaries and they have the biggest mouth ever. He is a social whore...nobody knows about the lies he told attacking your character or creating a smear campaign.He is a sheep whose closest are wolves in sheep clothing. He is a breach of security...a trojan horse. <-Danger..he is the FIRST one that needs to go. He's the problem...they can infiltrate my life through him. So sh*tbars, who ordinarily cannot access me can do so with this doormat, enabling idiot. There are some vindictive psychotic bar whores and a male psychopath...these are their friends...jealous people who have no friends. They are a heart beat away from ending up on that show 'SNAPPED'. I had to cut off ties block my ex and his entourage...he got a job near my house but I don't go in. I don't look at him, talk to him or acknowledge his existence. That is what works. I've done this before..SILENT TREATMENT..can be a way to navigate. When they are talking to you words are meaningless...it is the emotions behind the words that you pay attention to. Those words say 'Abuse me, I don't have control over my life. Bully me, I will put up with anything because I am afraid to be alone. I attract bad people that I make excuses for.' :-/
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You better run. I actually got a warning from the police about this narcissist borderline I used to hang out with who was a friend of my ex. I tried to report a lie that he told about a shop keeper because this asshole is a pathological liar. The police told me he was a liar and to stay away from this person. Damn, when the police have to tell you...this asshole is insane. He actually BIT me in the neck and he slashed my thighs with a pocket knife when I was over. He had several surgeries so I was just hanging out watching movies because he was drugged up. When he bit me, I screamed. I wasn't what he was looking for. I wasn't that low self esteem girl with coke addiction and anorexia. That is who he usually preys on. He told me 'You're hard to read' as in MANIPULATE. They are looking for victims not confident people. I figured out how to stay off their radar, engage the left brain or the logical side and refuse to be swayed by emotion. Besides, they will disappear when they find out you are healthy...though they will try to groom you. Everyone you talk to will tell you that they are an ASSHOLE and that is correct. Users, assholes, don't engage emotionally! That is their fuel! Emotional regulation bullsh*t...force these people to seek professional help by removing yourself and going NO CONTACT. I can't stress this enough. Don't make excuses for these assholes. People keep making excuses for them this is why they appear calm...they are getting their supply. Watch them when you ditch, they go apeshi*t. This motherf*cker was impersonating a police officer, and a DEA agent and he called the cops on me cos I hung up on his ass. Seriously, this guy is dangerous. He made a threat to blow up a building which I had to report. <-- WTF! Run the other way and then stay in therapy. I've been single for like 3 years JUST so I can disengage and learn more about the DYNAMIC of the f*cked up UNDERLYING EMOTIONAL DYSFUNCTION. I've been doing self help on and off for 20 years because my FOO was fubar! Don't stop learning and remember surround yourself with HEALTHY, POSITIVE people! Listen to that inner voice...you will feel this horrific thing wash over you. That happens when you suspect they are lying...that moment when you know they MUST be lying. Also, pay attention there are no accidents.
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Really? BPD do not get a degree of high when they "lie" which they really don't, do not catagorize BPD's with Sociopaths, they are not the same people.
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I called my X's smirk the Cheshire cat grin.
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Worrying about 'catching' women like this in the act feels like way too much effort. It's just ego. Do you want to be healthy and sane, or do you want to be right?
Just note it, keep your suspicions to yourself, and nod and smile like you're the most gullible chump in the world. It'll come as an even bigger shock when the day comes that you block every method they have to contact you. Tell them you're moving to become a banana farmer in Guatemala first. Surprise! -
these narcissist people are made. when you start.dealing with islamic people you learn islam creates them...ncourahes their craziness and its disgusting. no one ever talks about this so called religions environmentally induced and culturally encouraged evil lies and twisted lifestyles. it isn't a religion its s club for sickos.
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Dr Tara has this spot on...follow your gut!
watching two professional mental health 'colleagues' laughing their asses off about their 'clients'?...try again.mind you hearing a psychological breakdown of evil people was slightly redeeming!....well done Paul. have good one.